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Topic: Time for surgery
Posted By: Rico Len
Subject: Time for surgery
Date Posted: 09/October/2013 at 16:03
Well I will be a lot less active (I think) for the next week. Today I have to take my kids to my parents where they will stay for a week, then head out to Stanford to 'meet the anesthesiologist' so my wife can get prepped for surgery tommorow. It is going to be pretty extensive and risky surgery, they will be doing a hysterectomy, an ovarectomy, perhaps removes her lymphnodes, and a lot of her impacted vena cava, then graft in new blood vessels to replace the vena cava, all while trying to manage her blood clotting issues she also has.

Tbh, I am more than a little freaked out about it. If everything goes well, I will likely be bored and spending time trying to pre-occupy myself with wrestling talk like I have been since the beggining. If not... ???

Hopefully I will be bored and hanging out here annoying Della and Willy with my ass backwards views on wrestling.

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Posted By: admin
Date Posted: 09/October/2013 at 16:15
Originally posted by Rico Len Rico Len wrote:

Well I will be a lot less active (I think) for the next week. Today I have to take my kids to my parents where they will stay for a week, then head out to Stanford to 'meet the anesthesiologist' so my wife can get prepped for surgery tommorow. It is going to be pretty extensive and risky surgery, they will be doing a hysterectomy, an ovarectomy, perhaps removes her lymphnodes, and a lot of her impacted vena cava, then graft in new blood vessels to replace the vena cava, all while trying to manage her blood clotting issues she also has.

Tbh, I am more than a little freaked out about it. If everything goes well, I will likely be bored and spending time trying to pre-occupy myself with wrestling talk like I have been since the beggining. If not... ???

Hopefully I will be bored and hanging out here annoying Della and Willy with my ass backwards views on wrestling.


You will end up missing Della LOL On a serious note I hope it all goes well for you. That's a lot of work and you have one brave wife pal. While she's going through the surgery i'm sure people won't forget you need support too. As the adult man of the house you will be expected to put on a brave face through it all to support others. But that's easier said than done. I'm sure you will be a tower of strength for her. No shame in sheding a few tears either if you need to.

All the best


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Posted By: #Heel
Date Posted: 09/October/2013 at 17:14
Theres no way of imagining what your going through - all i can say is good luck and i sincerely hope everything goes well

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 09/October/2013 at 17:21
Fingers crossed for all this Rico, hopefully this will be the end of the stress other than the recovery of course. It sounds like it's going to be a long job so you'll need to be doing something to keep you sane or you'll just explode whilst waiting.

My wife has to have an operation in about 6 months too as she has something called a cholesteatoma, and we're telling the specialist tomorrow she'll have the operation as the long term risks are too big to not have the operation. Pesky health things huh?


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Posted By: IDIOTdella
Date Posted: 09/October/2013 at 18:10
I really hope all goes well for you and your family Rico.


Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 09/October/2013 at 20:50
Hope everything goes smoothly and you can look forward to enjoying some quality time with your family ASAP



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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 09/October/2013 at 22:35
Thanks guys. We are here now, and per my normal self, I have been waiting 10 minutes and I am already bored out of my mind. Lol

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Posted By: The Love Song Writer
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 00:37
Well I hope all goes well man. Sorry to hear about your situation. 

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Posted By: NS Male
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 04:18
Good luck and best wishes for successful surgery and a recovery with no problems.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 04:44
Long day... we are staying the night at my brother's house, then headed back in the morning. Her surgery is at noon, but we gotta get there two hours early, and we're gonna have to deal with some horrendous Bay Area rush hour traffic so it will be an early morning for us.

Signing all these release forms saying we can't sue them if she dies, and having to sign other forms saying I have the final say on what to do with her if she is in a coma and won't wake up, and being told that they can put us in touch with an attorney to help us with a will if we want to make one is all very sobering.

I am glad I am at my brother's place because he is very upbeat and funny and it's good to keep be around people like that at times like this.

Not really looking forward to tomorrow, but at the same time I can't wait until she is out of surgery.

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Posted By: Collywog3:16
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 05:11
My condolences to you and your family Rico. Hopefully it all goes well and she will be safe and sound. Best of luck dude! :)

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 18:51
Little stunned. False diagnosis of uterine cancer, surgery r canceled. Much larger vascular surgery to be scheduled soon, once they can make a correct diagnosis of her problem. May be cancer may be just a fibroid.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 19:12
Wow, is that a relief or just more anger and head scratching as after all this time they still don't know what the smeg it is?

Today the wife got on the list for her ear operation, the specialist can't be sure what it is until she's cut open, it could be something with the mastoid or it could be this cholesteatoma thing, either way it needs sorting, best case scenario is mastoid, which will only be minor surgery, worst case scenario is cholesteatoma and potential never damage in a 5 hour op. This is nothing on your scale Rico, but it's hard enough.


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 23:45
Well we are now waiting for an EKG, before they discharge us. So much forma week stay, we will be going back to square one. Wait for biopsy results, discuss the results, set up an pre-op consult, schedule surgery and go from there. /sigh.

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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 10/October/2013 at 23:51
Shit man, I seriously hope you and your wife get the correct diagnosis and treatment, so you can get back to normality and less stress ASAP

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Y'know what?....It's really fucking hot here in Africa. Who knew?....Well me, I have been doing this for almost 5 years


Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 12/October/2013 at 04:25
Well we are back home, and we are back in purgatory while we wait for a new diagnosis, and a new schedule for surgery. What a letdown. I mean, the prospect of finding out that she may not have cancer is really cool, but at the same time we've already gone through months of chemo, and my wife has now lost just about 100 lbs. I am really not sure how to feel about all this, but my wife is very sore just from the biopsy and laying in a hospital bed on top of the pain she normally experiences from her tumor. Not looking forward to waiting for who knows how long before they call us.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 12/October/2013 at 07:53
Didn't they give you some kind of timeframe for the call back? Hopefully, given what she's already gone through, it won't be too long before that happens.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 12/October/2013 at 19:54
I am just guessing we are looking at roughly another month.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 30/October/2013 at 17:32
It seems like everytime my wife ends up having an extended stay at the hosptial something else also goes wrong in the family. 

My wife had an appointment on monday and they asked her to stay a few days to give her a bunch ofnextra blood and run some other tests, so I ran h8me 4 hours away to take care of some errands before c8ming back. Well I left yhe following morning to do this and when I got home I found out our Australian Shepherd mix escaped and was attacked, killed, and dragged off to get eaten by a pack of coyotes. I knew there was a ravine just off the back of our property where coyotes would sometimes stay during the day, so I went and checked it out and sure enough she was there just outside the den with her innards eaten out.

In the meantime my wife was informed that the whole host of rare blood diseases she had been diagnosed with were also misdiagnosed and that the large blood clot they thought they had found in her abdomen was actually the tumor and likely not at all cancerous, though they won't know that for sure until the tumor is removed.

they also informed us that this surgery they are prepping her for is quite extensive,  which we knew, but has a roughly 25% mortality rate due to blood loss. Best of all? They are trying to schedule the surgery on my son's birthday next tuesday.

/sigh nothing is ever easy.


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 02/November/2013 at 17:35
Well I guess my wife is not going home anytime soon.

I got here to the hospital today,  and she informes me that they scheduled her surgery for Wednesday,  the day after my son's birthday. 

Her surgery will be to remove and then reconstruct her vena cava. It will be an all day affair and is at the very limits of what Stanford is capable of doing and has a 1 in 4 mortality rate. 

I will be going back home to be with the kids until after my son's birthday,  then rush back here to stanford to be with Lindsay for the surgery. 

Shit just got real,  somehow even moreso than the first time we were here. It is a pretty painful though to think that when my parents bring the kids by today,  it might be the last time they get to see their mom.


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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 02/November/2013 at 17:58
Good Luck doode. I am rooting for you and your family. Stay stong Buddy. Your Wife sounds like a fighter so positive thinking and plenty of support, If you need to vent/chat just hit me up on PM mate.

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Posted By: thundarr2000
Date Posted: 02/November/2013 at 18:08
Try to stay positive Rico. It's not easy. But it really does helps to put out that positive vibe. 





Posted By: DangerZone
Date Posted: 02/November/2013 at 19:34
Stay positive, we're all pulling for you.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 03/November/2013 at 07:41
You've totally been through the mill with all this. We are all hoping for the best outcome for you and your family, so try to stay as strong as possible, I know it's easier said than done though.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 03/November/2013 at 16:04
Well I am back home until Tuesday evening with the kids. Tuesday is my son's birthday so we'll have a small party for him then I'll drop them all off at my parents house and drive back to stanford (these 3.5 hour trips are getting old) so I can be with my wife before she's put under in prep for her surgery.

With any luck Stanford will live up to it's reputation and after Wednesday it'll all be about putting this shit behind us. We need to go on some kind of cruise or something.


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 06/November/2013 at 13:45
Well the time has come. It is currently 5:50am, pre-op is at 6, and surgery will go from 7:30 to 7:30.

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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 06/November/2013 at 13:48
Stay strong and Look forward to when you see her in recovery. 

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Y'know what?....It's really fucking hot here in Africa. Who knew?....Well me, I have been doing this for almost 5 years


Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 06/November/2013 at 14:13
Fingers crossed Rico. I hope you've got plenty of things with you to try and help pass the time.

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Posted By: admin
Date Posted: 06/November/2013 at 14:43
Good luck Rico. Hope it all goes well.

We all moan from time to time about someone we care for, but if they weren't around we'd miss them.

Remember to make abit of time for yourself even if it's just popping out for an hour for some food.


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 06/November/2013 at 23:29
I am getting completely fed up with everything. They wheeled her down for pre-op, so we got past that point today, but aapparently she developed a fever last night and her INR levels weren't low enough, and now as a result they canceled surgery for the third time. Every time it is a matter of the team not being prepared for what they're getting into because her situation has advanced a little more than they anticipated.

We had family fly down from Washington State just to see her before she went under and people driving from all over the state my kids are out of school... so damned frustrated at this point.

Now they are talking about doing some inpatient chemo of the really strong stuff. This is the stuff that will definitely make her hair fall out and make her vomit, and apparently it has some other bad side effects that require her being under constant care. Looks like we are on schedule for her having surgery around Christmas. 

As if the earlier chemo did anything, meanwhile the tumor just keeps growing and getting that much hardee to operate on, and she ends up in just that much more pain. Seriously, I am going t8 break something if they pull this again. I mean I get putting it off a day until her fever goes down, but they've had overma week to get her blood thickened up to the proper levels.


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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 07/November/2013 at 07:37
Oh dear! They really are putting you through the mill aren't they? I suppose on one hand it's a good thing that they won't operate if  certain levels are too low, but at the same time they are only covering their arses and potentially making things worse.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 10/November/2013 at 20:36
well things just seem to keep piling on. She is in for the chemotherapy,  and I am here with her. Apparently over the weekend while I have been home, she has developed dementia,  incontinence,  and is severely exhausted. She can no longer sign her own consent forms for treatment, and believes it is 1997.

I hate to say it even here (I wouldn't admit this on facebook or to any irl friends and family) but I am starting to lose hope. They yave found spots on her lungs, her heart has been weakened, either because of all she has been through lately or because that to is hereditary,  we don't know. Add that on to the fact that the tumor is too big to operate on with first shrinking it, and the fact that they don't believe the previous chemotherapy shrunk the tumor at all, I just don't see her getting through this.

This is just really getting to be too much, for her and me.


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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 10/November/2013 at 20:42
Really sorry to hear that Rico, it has been nothing but torture for you hasn't it? Everything that seemingly could go wrong for your family has. Try not to loose hope though, you need to keep yourself going somehow.

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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 11/November/2013 at 05:36
Sorry to hear that Mate, But even now when things are darkest you need to stay strong and Positive for your family. Keep your head up mate. We are all rooting for you and your wife.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 15/November/2013 at 23:49
2 things. 

1: Since I don't know any of you guys irl you kind of get the real shit side of the updates, where I make note of the things that family and friends on facebook etc. Wouldn't want me to talk about because I'm supposed to be 'positive' and pretend I don't see what I see or feel the way I feel.

2: I can now see my wife's tumor. She looks like she is about 4 months pregnant only to the right side of her abdominal region. She started this whole thing weighing around 240 lbs. Dropped to 140 just before surgery, and is now at 180. That 40 lbs pretty much came out of no where. So when I heard about her weight gain and for the first time am able to see her tumor... doesn't seem like the chemo is going to work well enough to make a difference.


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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 30/November/2013 at 11:18
Horrid stuff Rico. It's been a while since your last update, how are you and the family holding up?

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 30/November/2013 at 16:09
We went to San Francisco to spend Thanksgiving with her cousins because it's just a 30 minute drive from her to Stanford where this last week she has been getting radiation therapy. Her hair fell out once and for all last weekend so we shaved the rest, aand now she looks like a true cancer patient. With the hair still there it was possible for me to pretend she was ok when I saw her, now it's just a constant reminder of her condition.

Today she goes back in to stay at the hospital for 5 days while she gets another round of the highly toxic chemotherapy and I will be taking the kids home just in time to return to school following the thanksgiving break.

EDIT: btw we are staying at the house of David Harrington of the Kronos Quartet. Kinda cool seeing his Grammy Award on the piano off the dining room. For the next week there is apparently going to be a lot of bruhaha about their group celebrating their 40th anniversary here in San Francisco.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 01/December/2013 at 09:37
Still non stop for you then, have the Dr's given you any hope or are they still being idiots who don't know what's happening?

Also is he a friend of yours? As staying in a grammy award winners house must be something.


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 01/December/2013 at 15:01
Well at this point I beleive the only hope we have is that the chemo and radiation work to make things a little easier or they simply will say the tumor is inoperable and give us a time estimate on how much longer she has to live.

David Harrington is married to my wife's mom's cousin. So his daughter and my wife are second cousins and were some of the very few my wife has remained close friends with. TBH up until this last trip to visit them I have never even given it much thought. I knew he toured in a music group, but I gave him one look, figured it was some kind of Eagles kind of music, and never gave it a listen. Then this time we visited someone was showing one of my kids the Grammy award on the piano, and it kinda surprised me, then on top of that San Fransisco is running a big thing in their paper about the Kronos Quartet's 40th anniversary and I guess it's really becoming quite a big event. So I finally gave them a listen. They're pretty cool actually. I was way off, they are more like Apocalyptica than anyone else, except theydo a little bit of everything.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 23/December/2013 at 01:14
So I have been at home keeping the kids in school the last 2 weeks and haven't been able to see my wife. But today I got back to San Francisco, dropped off the kids at my wife's cousin's house, then drove down to Stanford to see my wife. I heard from her dad that she had been admitted to the hospital again because she got a nosebleed in her sleep, and then woke up vomiting blood, which obviously is pretty disturbing. I thought however that it was no more than that and that all the tests they were doing to make sure her stomach wasn't bleeding and such was mostly a precaution. It turns out she is slowly starting to have problems with liver and gall bladder function. She is yellow, lost more weight, weaker, and not even healthy enough to get chemo or radiation. It is almost Christmas and we're not sure if she will be able to come "home" or have to stay in the intermediate ICU. Things don't ever seem to go our way.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 04/January/2014 at 08:22
I am back in the ICU. She hasn't been out of the hospital since her vomiting blood incident, but she was moved to the cancer ward for a while. We brought Christmas to her and opened presents in her room, but she missed out on New Years completely. I took the kids to the Santa Cruz Beach Boardwalk today. It is a smalltime amusement park, and let them go on all the rides that were running. No one was there on a friday in winter, so some of the rides weren't going but we had no waits so it was pretty good. All in all it was shaping up to be the best day of the past 2 weeks, until just as I was drifting off to sleep, I got a call from her doctors saying she had a series of seizures and was being moved back into the ICU. So I left the kids with her cousins since they were all sleeping, and now it's the middle of the night and I am here with her while she sleeps. She keeps sayng she is afraid of having another seizure. They gave her a brain scan while I was driving down, and were able to rule out any brain damage, but she still needs to be under close supervision. God I hope we can get this surgery soon.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 09/January/2014 at 22:45
I am back at home trying to keep the kids in school, but I just got done talking with my wife's uncle who is with her in the Intermediate ICU. He told me that her seizures have been getting more frequent and more violent, she just had one a couple hours ago and they took her away to do some tests and check her for brain damage as afterward she appeared confused and no memory of why she was there.

I am scheduled to leave tomorrow to head back to her cousin's house in San Francisco, but TBH I'm really about ready to just take the kids out of school and say the hell with it. If they have to repeat the year, then so be it. None of the programs that are supposed to be there to help kids when they have to take extended leaves from school are of any help to me unless I want to home school them, and seriously? No I don't want to home school them.

Damn it man. This sucks.

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Posted By: Wesker's Shadow
Date Posted: 10/January/2014 at 00:56
Such a heartbreaking situation you're going through, Rico. I wish nothing but the best for your family and really hope for a positive turn around. Sending many prayers for your family. 

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 10/January/2014 at 09:09
Originally posted by Rico Len Rico Len wrote:

I am back at home trying to keep the kids in school, but I just got done talking with my wife's uncle who is with her in the Intermediate ICU. He told me that her seizures have been getting more frequent and more violent, she just had one a couple hours ago and they took her away to do some tests and check her for brain damage as afterward she appeared confused and no memory of why she was there.

I am scheduled to leave tomorrow to head back to her cousin's house in San Francisco, but TBH I'm really about ready to just take the kids out of school and say the hell with it. If they have to repeat the year, then so be it. None of the programs that are supposed to be there to help kids when they have to take extended leaves from school are of any help to me unless I want to home school them, and seriously? No I don't want to home school them.

Damn it man. This sucks.

All I can say is do what you feel is best for them. At the end of the day are they really going to be able to concentrate enough to do the work that is required due to everything that's going on? Would it be possible to chat with the school just to lay your cards on the table?


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 12/January/2014 at 06:02
Well for once we finally got some good news.

My wife's liver has pretty much completely recovered at this point, the seizures she was having were found not to even be a part of the complications from the liver, but actually a side effect of having been using one of her pain medications for too long, so they suspended that, gave her some anti seizure medication, and now it's justa matter of getting over the hurdle of her blood loss so she ddoesn't have to have so many blood transfusions (1 every other day) and getting her nutrition level up so she has some strength and then she should be able to have the surgery in 2-3 weeks from now. All the work now is just to get her body into prime condition for surgery. At least now it seems like we have some hope again.

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Posted By: thundarr2000
Date Posted: 12/January/2014 at 06:49
You guys have been long overdue for a little good news... 

I'm still pulling for you crazy kids. 


Posted By: #Heel
Date Posted: 12/January/2014 at 08:46
Originally posted by thundarr2000 thundarr2000 wrote:

You guys have been long overdue for a little good news... 

I'm still pulling for you crazy kids. 

I completely agree and i hope that in 2-3 weeks you have even more good news 


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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 12/January/2014 at 08:50
About time you had some good news regarding this, fingers crossed all goes to plan now and you can finally start looking forward.

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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 12/January/2014 at 09:43
Hope the news keeps getting better for you guys

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Posted By: Wesker's Shadow
Date Posted: 12/January/2014 at 17:16
Glad to hear things have gotten a little better. Hoping for the positivity to continue.


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 25/January/2014 at 21:30
Son
of
a
bitch.

Things were looking up. We got my wife transferred to a rehabilitation center in downtown San Francisco, she was stronger, not having seizures. I got here this morning to spend the day with her. After a bit I went to use the restroom, and when I came back she told me she needs to leave. Ok I don't really blame her, this place is in a really old building, no one speaks fluent English, so it is hard for us to understand what people are saying, and thus for us to keep informed about what is going on. In short, it isn't Stanford.

But apparently that isn't the issue she has with this place and also with Stanford as well. She told me Stanford hired actors to play doctors and they were hiding information from her and giving her weird drugs to experiment with on her, and that these people her are going to take her to the Philippines as soon as I leave so they can donate her organs to he rich people there.

Really?! WTF does a rational person say to that? Now I gotta figure out how to get a hold of someone in charge her and talk with them about the meds she getting, because this paranoid schizophrenic bit needs to stop ASAP. But as soon as I try and leave her side she freaks out. /sigh. Her Uncle is due here any minute so I will just wait I guess.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 25/January/2014 at 21:38
Is that a side effect of all the meds? That must be some weird shit to deal with, especially everything you've already gone through.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 25/January/2014 at 23:39
Yeah, it's gotta be. I keep trying to get ahold of someone who knows what's going on here, but I am getting the runaround. Wish now I had driven instead of taking the muni, or I would spring my wife from this place, but she can't make the couple mile walk through the hills of SF to reach the subway.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 26/January/2014 at 03:55
Well finally got ahold of someone who knew what was going on. Apparently the pain medication she got when she first got there had a side effect of paranoia. It just needs to get out of her system and she will be fine, but in the meantime it is a bit of a fight to get her to stay put. The good news is she is much stronger, but this stupid confused paranoia really makes her a danger to herself. Ugh. And I really wanted to get home tomorrow in time to see the rumble. Heheh, dumb I know, but almost all year I have been treating myself and the kids to a superbowl style party each ppv. It helps alleviate the stress of everything else going on in our family. She needs me here with her right now though.

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Posted By: thundarr2000
Date Posted: 26/January/2014 at 03:59
Originally posted by Baz Baz wrote:

Is that a side effect of all the meds? That must be some weird shit to deal with, especially everything you've already gone through.
Something like that happened to a family friend's mother. She was in the hospital and thought there were government spies watching her through the TV or something like that. It had something to do with the combination of drugs they were giving her. Mixed together crazy shit happened.


Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 05/March/2014 at 03:59
Here we go again. We got scheduled for surgery this coming Friday, the day after our 13th anniversary. I kinda feel like this is old hat at this point. Family are flying down to be here, I gotta meet with the kids teachers and let them know what's going on. The plus side is that surgery should be easier and less risky than last time because despite causing seizures and borderline liver failure, the chemo and radiation did actually do its job. Both my wife and I are kinda taking the stance of been there done that, except that in fact we haven't. It is just hard to feel nervous, or scared or anything else. We are more like: "Yeah, yeah, let's just do this and get it over with for christ's sake."

after all we've been through, I just want this done.

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Posted By: IDIOTdella
Date Posted: 05/March/2014 at 16:26
Thoughts and prayers for the very best outcome concerning this operation, Rico




Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 05/March/2014 at 17:18
Hopefully you'll keep getting some good news Rico, you and your family really do deserve some positives given everything you've been going through.

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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 05/March/2014 at 18:20
If i were a religious man I would Pray for you. However I am not so I am Hoping for all the best and that you and your wife can beat this and take your kids and have an awesome time once this shit is over. 

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Y'know what?....It's really fucking hot here in Africa. Who knew?....Well me, I have been doing this for almost 5 years


Posted By: Kondor
Date Posted: 06/March/2014 at 03:52
Best of luck with everything, Rico; and you know you have our full support. Other than that there are no words I can say. I can't pretend to imagine what you are going through. 

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 06/March/2014 at 16:01
Thanks guys. Today is my 13th wedding anniversary, and nerves are finally starting to set in. We gotta do laundry, pack, and make the drive to San Fransisco tonight after the kids get off school. Then it's up at 4am so we can get woken up, I can get showered, and then make a 5:30 check-in at the hospital at Stanford University. Then it's pre-op, getting her changed, disinfected, pre-medicated, and knocked out so her surgery can start at 7:15am. 12 hours of surgery, and hopefully the worst will finally be behind us.

If they cancel again...

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Posted By: Steven Nyte
Date Posted: 06/March/2014 at 16:43
I got a good feeling for you guys. You´re gonna rock this this time. So best chill the bubbly already, this is all gonna done soon.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 07/March/2014 at 16:13
Stuck in limbo now. They have taken her to the OR, which is where we got last time. I went to get some breakfast and then got a call to come back to the waiting area because the surgeon wanted to talk to me. Turned out they canceled. So this time I am sticking around long enough to see her status on the board change to 'start'. Once they do that I will go eat, and kill time for the next 8 hours.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 07/March/2014 at 16:16
You've always got us for the next 8 hours if you need us LOL

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Posted By: IDIOTdella
Date Posted: 07/March/2014 at 16:16
Is it still going ahead today, Rico?



Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 07/March/2014 at 19:38
The surgery is in progress. It is almost to the halfway point, at which time we will get an update as to what is going on.

so far pandora radio and the ebook of The Martian are keeping me busy. Now I am just answering questions from her friends and family on facebook. Figured I would see what's going on here now while I wait for the lady who updates everyone to come around to let us know what is going on.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 07/March/2014 at 19:42
Fingers crossed you're in for some positive news then.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 07/March/2014 at 20:30
Just got our update.

the oncology team has finished removing the tumor, and the vascular team is preparing to repair the damage done by the tumor and its removal. Halfway done and so far so good.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 07/March/2014 at 20:53
Excellent news Rico, hope the rest goes to plan too!

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Posted By: Collywog3:16
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 00:33
Great to hear that everything is going well Rico, hope she pulls through buddy!

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 01:00
We got another update about an hour ago saying they were doing radiation on the affected area, and that the grafting and repairing of the veins was complete. The OR was only booked till 5 and it is a couple minutes afternow.

Things have been going well, and now I am anxious to finally say this bullshit is finally behind us and we can move on to the next step.

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Posted By: DangerZone
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 01:48
We#re all hoping the worst is behind you and that your wife makes a speedy recovery.

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 02:35
About an hour ago I got a good news bad news update from the surgeon in person. He told me and her dad that from a cancer perspective, he is very happy with the outcome and everything went well. However while removing the tumor there was an impacted nerve the tumor had grown into and had to be removed. They took a nerve from her thigh and grafted it in place because without it she would be more or less paralysed from the waist down on her right side. With the graft she will not have control of her foot tapping motion, however since that nerve was healthy it will grow back at a rate of 2cm a month for about 2 years and eventually she will have full controll of her right leg again. They are still working on this portion of the surgery and in another 2 hours or so they should get her closed up and back into the icu to recover.

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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 02:52
At least the surgery went well mate, Finger's and toes crossed for you and your family that this hell is finally over for you.

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Posted By: IDIOTdella
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 05:12
That's fantastic news, Rico. From the place where you were at to where you'll be is a gigantic, fantastic, positive thing.

Really pleased things are looking a hell of a lot better than they were


Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 05:24
Well I am back in San Francisco. The doctor came out about 2 hours ago and told us they were done. He kind of recapped what he told us the last time he came out to talk to us, only tbis time he was speaking in past tense. She did have this done, they did do that, etc. 5hey are keeping her intibated and unconscious for the night and monitor her in the icu, then they will wake her up in the morning. So my 19 hour day has come to an end.

Good night tupeeps. Thanks for the well wishes moral support and distractions and entertainment. Much appreciated.

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Posted By: AirBourne
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 05:25
Hey Rico, I'm a new guy around here but I read all of the pages that have been posted so far and I just want to wish you, your wife, your kids, and your whole family the best! Hopefully this unneeded rollercoaster for you guys will be coming to an end soon and your wife makes a complete recovery! I know I'm pulling for you guys!

I'll keep checking in on this and wishing you well! Good luck man! 


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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 05:29
Thanks Bourne, so many of you came in at once by tup standards, it's hard to keep track of who I have welcomed and who I haven't, but welcome to the forums.

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Posted By: AirBourne
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 05:54
Not a problem, it's understandable, I'm sure you and I will talk much more. I'm one of the founders/creative members of EGW (the new e-Fed here) so if you ever wanted to do it, by all means, but regardless, I'm sure we will talk more! But again, good luck to you and your whole family!

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Posted By: Kondor
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 09:16
Well hopefully now the worst is passed you (plural) and she will make a full recovery and you and your family can live a normal life. Our thoughts are with you and God bless. 

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 21:16
Some excellent news since I last got chance to read this. Things can only get easier now Rico!

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 08/March/2014 at 21:55
So we got here this morning and she was already awake, and pissed off that she was stuck with the tube in her mouth. The cool thing though is that when the doctor came by a few minutes later, he was talking about the nerve transplant they did and about the side effects, and my wife surprised everyone by moving her foot really well. Now the doctors are wondering what happened because she shouldn't be able to do that. Heheh

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Posted By: IDIOTdella
Date Posted: 11/March/2014 at 04:38
At least this time they got something wrong, it was actually beneficial




Posted By: smpunk
Date Posted: 11/March/2014 at 08:21
Hey man. Best wishes to you, your wife and your family

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 22/March/2014 at 02:31
Tomorrow morning I drop the kids off at the pool parents house, then head up to Stanford to see my wife. I will spend the night in the hospital room with her, then we will get discharged first thing in the morning and I will bring her home once and for all.

She has a lot of crap still to go through, she DOES have to re-learn how to walk, will need a knee-brace for the next couple years, and currently needs a wheelchair, but the tumor is gone, the cancer is in remission, and we can slowly work on getting back to our lives.

Sunday is my daughter's 11th birthday. My parents will be having the party here at our house, and hopefully we won't get hung up on the process of getting her discharged from the hospital and get back in time to be a part of it.

Thanks for being supportive while I vent all this bullshit. I appreciate it from all of you.

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Posted By: IDIOTdella
Date Posted: 22/March/2014 at 03:50
That's great news Rico. Great Birthday Pressie for your daughter too.




Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 22/March/2014 at 04:21
Fantastic News Bro

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 22/March/2014 at 15:37
Excellent news Rico! Let's hope the recovery is a steady one!

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Posted By: #Heel
Date Posted: 22/March/2014 at 16:03
Mate thats fantastic news - i sincerely hope all.of the hospital business is behind u and your misses makes a steady recovery

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 22/March/2014 at 20:54
Just when you think you're out they pull you back in.

Not really sure what the deal is yet, but I just got here and was informed she won't be going home tomorrow. She is having some problems with her stomach and they don't yet know why. They hooked up a bile bag to let her stomach's contents slowly drain into and they will examine the contents tomorrow and then go from there.

/sigh

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 23/March/2014 at 08:04
Oh ffs, it's seemingly never ending Rico!

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 23/March/2014 at 17:21
Well I guess I am about to head home without my wife. Try again next week. I was hoping we would be pretty well settled in by the time Mania came around and it could be our first family get together at our house, but maybe I will have to skip it this year so I can go bring her home.

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Posted By: Ignaitus
Date Posted: 23/March/2014 at 18:34
You might as well set it to record if you can and then watch it at some other point then

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 26/March/2014 at 19:04
Well I am back now, hoping to take my wife home today. But OF COURSE the stomach feeding tube they were supposed to remove this morning hasn't been done yet, and it is now noon. I have some contingency plans as far as the kids are concerned, but I would rather get home asap, than to wait around here all fucking day.

the good news though is that she is unhooked from everything for the first time since we checked her in at the beginning of the month. So even if we are late, it seems we will be going home today.

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Posted By: DangerZone
Date Posted: 26/March/2014 at 19:24
Thats great news dude.

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Posted By: LennyComa
Date Posted: 26/March/2014 at 19:32
Fantastic News Rico

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 27/March/2014 at 00:58
Well after a bunch of back and forth we finally got the go ahead to get discharged. It is 6pm now, it'll likely be 7 7:30 before we are able to actually leave, then we have a 3+ hour drive... gonna be a late night for the kids, and they still have school tomorrow. But at least we will all be home.

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Posted By: Baz
Date Posted: 27/March/2014 at 07:06
Finallym hope the recovery and eveything else is now an easier ride for you and your family.

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Posted By: Kondor
Date Posted: 27/March/2014 at 07:12
A family being together is a precious thing; its is great news that now she is home. May God be with your family in the recovery which hopefully will go smoothly, and you all can live life as normal as possible. 

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Posted By: Rico Len
Date Posted: 02/April/2014 at 20:58
Fml...

went to take the kids to school, by the time I got back my wife was on the floor in a pool of her own blood. So naturally that freaked me the fuck out. I guess she got up to go pee, which she normally doesn't do without me because she can't walk well, and she I don't think ever got stood up properly with her walker and just fell over on top of her walker and hit her head on one of the metal legs on her office chair.

I called 911 and an ambulance came and took her to the er here in Fresno. They are talking about maybe transporting her back to Stanford. She hasn't been eating or drinking enough and is once again malnourished and dehydrated, and now with the fall I don't know what else. She obviously needs more care than I can give her here at home.

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